Oh, my dad the cookie baker was a Navy Seal and a military policeman who taught me judo throws and how to box. LOL
You can definitely be sensitive and caring without being a wuss.
I know plenty of guys who are the opposite though. Macho exteriors hiding real cowardice when the chips are down or someone needs them. Blech.
Yeah, Phillip(the hubby)is really a great guy who'll do anything for people he cares about, but he's got a lot of external armor. The older he gets, the less need for that there is, fortunately.
Let's just say his life experiences haven't been conducive to trust, but he does trust the people who care about him. In his case, he at least had a great mom who gave him what she could being a single working mother, but he was pretty much on his own most of his life.
He has a great step dad too, but he didn't aquire him til he was 16. Phil's real dad was an abusive alcoholic and a blatant womanizer, and that can make for a pretty rough childhood. Sad story.
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Date: 2004-06-23 05:19 am (UTC)You can definitely be sensitive and caring without being a wuss.
I know plenty of guys who are the opposite though. Macho exteriors hiding real cowardice when the chips are down or someone needs them. Blech.
Yeah, Phillip(the hubby)is really a great guy who'll do anything for people he cares about, but he's got a lot of external armor. The older he gets, the less need for that there is, fortunately.
Let's just say his life experiences haven't been conducive to trust, but he does trust the people who care about him. In his case, he at least had a great mom who gave him what she could being a single working mother, but he was pretty much on his own most of his life.
He has a great step dad too, but he didn't aquire him til he was 16.
Phil's real dad was an abusive alcoholic and a blatant womanizer, and that can make for a pretty rough childhood. Sad story.